The Road Less Traveled: Can homeschooling be a lonely lifestyle?

Compiled by Hanlie Wentzel on 15 Nov 2017.

We all need face-time to connect with others. To form social bonds, meaningful relationships and the blessing of real friendships.

For this {huge and diverse} group of homeschoolers to feel like a Tribe, we need something called “group cohesion” for a sense of belonging to develop.

“Group cohesiveness (also called group cohesion and social cohesion) arises when bonds link members of a social group to one another and to the group as a whole. Although cohesion is a multi-faceted process, it can be broken down into four main components: social relations, task relations, perceived unity, and emotions.[1] Members of strongly cohesive groups are more inclined to participate readily and to stay with the group.” [2]

Media groups are wonderful forums and resources, but we all need to feel connected on a personal level. To feel that others know us and care about us. More importantly, for all of us to take ownership… and initiative… to care for and support one another.

“Birds of a feather flock together”. People always gravitate towards like-minded people or familiar friends. We all have to make the effort to reach out, be inclusive, to put ourselves out there and be emotionally vulnerable.

For example, to admit that you are new or lonely…or that your kids struggle to make new friends easily and just fit in effortlessly…is hard. The fear of rejection, of not being accepted or liked…is a very basic human response. Not only for kids, but also for adults.

The good news is…by just creating a space for face-time…these real connections will develop. For us busy Homeschool Moms and for our kids.

We have to be deliberate, but at the same time organic, informal and spontaneous.


Introversion is not a Social Disorder. Introverts are not anti-social, they are just emotionally drained by social interaction (especially strangers or large groups) and need quietness and solitude to recharge their batteries.

Introverts often experience socializing as exhausting and draining. They find solace in solitude.

Introvert Moms love their homes, and are gifted at homemaking, creating a beautiful and loving space for their family.

Introverts are highly creative. They are the thinkers, teachers, researchers, artists, writers, philosophers, inventors and prophets. Who all need solitude to be at peace and to grow in their crafts.

Yes, sometimes we need secret passageways to escape company…because we are too polite to tell people it is time to go home.

We need to find a balance between our desire for solitude and our need for connectedness. All of us need to be connected in a deep and meaningful way to others. We need to be brave and be kind.

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